Have you come across the term "highly sensitive?"
It's a term I'm familiar with having had to learn about my own sensitivity in order to survive living in this world! Furthermore it has helped me let go of that which doesn't work for me and turn my life into a more enjoyable journey.
Below you will find a link sent to me by a lovely friend, to a talk by specialist, Elain Aron, on "highly sensitive poeple". It is a lovely talk and well worth the listen if this is a theme in your life or someone you know. Here is some of what she has to say:
- Your trait is normal. It is found in 15 to 20% of the population–too many to be a disorder, but not enough to be well understood by the majority of those around you.
- It is innate. In fact, biologists have found it in over 100 species (and probably there are many more) from fruit flies, birds, and fish to dogs, cats, horses, and primates. This trait reflects a certain type of survival strategy, being observant before acting. The brains of highly sensitive persons (HSPs) actually work a little differently than others'.
- You are more aware than others of subtleties. This is mainly because your brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. So even if you wear glasses, for example, you see more than others by noticing more.
- You are also more easily overwhelmed. If you notice everything, you are naturally going to be overstimulated when things are too intense, complex, chaotic, or novel for a long time.
- This trait is not a new discovery, but it has been misunderstood. Because HSPs prefer to look before entering new situations, they are often called "shy." But shyness is learned, not innate. In fact, 30% of HSPs are extraverts, although the trait is often mislabeled as introversion. It has also been called inhibitedness, fearfulness, or neuroticism. Some HSPs behave in these ways, but it is not innate to do so and not the basic trait.
- Sensitivity is valued differently in different cultures. In cultures where it is not valued, HSPs tend to have low self-esteem. They are told "don't be so sensitive" so that they feel abnormal.
Did you know that being highly sensitive has also lots of benefits!?
Remember all weaknesses can be turned into strengths :) Being highly sensitive enables me to feel the energy of a person by just focusing on them, looking at them or meeting them. It definitely forms the back bone of my work and does so for many including great artits, musicians, parents, carers and more. There are some great insights and tips in this audio. I hope you enjoy it. To appreciating each other, and
with loving kindness,
Ps Sometimes "Highly Sensitives" just need peace and quiet and to get away from it all, digest all the data input they've been experiencing and tune into their inner self and rhythm. This is often where relationships can run into difficulty. If time out is not permitted for oneself, people may turn against each other in the relationship, mistaking a need for time out with thinking it is someone else's fault that one is feeling this way. If you are highly sensitive, make sure you arrange time out for yourself regularly, you'll find you'll feel much calmer, happier and all your relationships will benefit :)