Healthy people have boundaries.
I didn't really know what this meant at first because I grew up thinking boundaries were bad and to some degree that I was also bad if I tried to have some.
Have you experienced others taking advantage of your kindness? Are you pushing people around, taking advantage of their energy? This is in general how dynamics work – one requires the other to exist. Which roles are you playing in your main relationships? Take a few deep calm breaths, feel the heart at peace on the pause when you are holding a full breath and on the pause when you have no air after you have exhaled. Activate the stomach muscles when you do this by holding the stomach muscles in- for better focus.
Boundaries are an issue for many and most likely you have noticed this pop up in your recent experience and dealt with it in a good way. Well done. Keep an eye open and be happy to say yes or no with what feels right inside of you. It is ok to say no. It is ok to listen to yourself, to go with what you feel internally and get to know yourself and observe and reflect upon the outcomes of doing so.
Being aware of and honouring your boundaries is healthy. It is not rude.
Knowing that this much is cool but that much does not feel good is also healthy.
You do not need to be rude or hurtful, walked on or abused to have healthy boundaries.
Everyone benefits when healthy boundaries are observed. Usually they are only not observed when people simply do not know that the concept or idea of them even exists. Like I was for many years- and during that time experiencing both parts of the dynamic.
If you find yourself upset these days, look at the boundaries you have. Take care of yourself and Love yourself. You are wonderful and remember it's ok to have boundaries xx