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Can you imagine who you are if you dropped all your old stories? 

Are you ready to let go of your stories; all those things you tell yourself happened to you?

Who are you when you release your sotries and how do you feel?

By old stories I mean are those that no longer serve you and are well worn out. Perhaps you are a victim in them, treated unfairly, there is some abuse, power struggle etc. Energy Healing image

Challenges can truely help makes us who we are yet there also comes a time to let go of and relase the old stories. It is good to let go.

When one is lost in old stories one is lost in ego, in a sperate identity possibly of some sort of victim. Each story you carry attaches you to some version of yourself, some character you play in that story. A story can be told a thousand ways and seen from a thousand different persepctives. Old stories that keep getting retold about soemthing that happened or isn't fair, either your own or someone else's, can really get tiring! Just think about it a moment and you may agree?

You don't have to give up any story, but what I'm inviting you to do is ask yourself what story are you hanging on to that you'd actually like to drop completely?

Can you name it out loud? 

I have one that comes to mind and I am dropping it completely. I'm no longer going to repreat the same old words, phrases 'I'm no good at.... blah blah blah blah!'

I'm done with it, and am so happy to realise it's not true and that I can release it. Time to drop it!

Next time someone asks you about something, rather than go into the usual tale/ story, you might like to pause a few moments, breathe and see what new words arise. Life, breath, words, thoughts are delivered to us moment by moment. Allowing each moment to be birthed anew gifts us rich, abundanct, propoerous, fun and creative connections. 

Here are two meditations I deveoped many years ago as a matter of survival!

They also help me feel more free, clear, happy and in peace, not to mention harmonious and unattached to stories!

They may not be for everyone, but they have helped me and may just help you.

Peace be with you love child of the universe X.  

The harmony Meditation  howth sun boat

Purpose: Feel more harmony with life

Why: Breathing harmoniously for 10 minutes will bring more harmony into your life. Easy and it works!

Focus on a certain area such as health, home, work, finances, how you look, etc. for 21 breaths plus, to bring more harmony into these specific areas of your life. This exercise will shift the mind out of the ‘story’ it is playing and into the present moment where you are everything and nothing and all is possible. The crystalline grid around you alters with your breath and feelings, and this will then affect a different reality to open up in front of you. In a way a death occurs, a death of a thought pattern you’ve been stuck in and the death of the story you’ve been carrying around with you. This could be a story that has gone on all your life, (e.g. ‘my bad skin’ can be calmed by breathing harmoniously while pondering good skin, bad skin ,regular skin and giving thanks for your lovely skin!) or even may go generations back as you may observe how your parents also carried a story. Are you ready to let it go? Likewise it could be something that’s just popped up in your day and this meditation equally has the power to transform a ‘bad day’ into ‘good day’.

  1. Start with The Quick Power Breath Meditation to oxygenate the body and clear the mind. Use the stomach muscles as a pump to exhale and inhale 21 rapid breaths:
    • Push all air out of lungs by pushing stomach muscles and spine in towards each other
    • Inhale by pushing out stomach muscles and lower back away from spine (outwards away from each other)
    • Exhale and inhale rapidly for 2 minutes or as long is comfortable. If this is your first time to try this, 5 breaths may be enough to begin with. Stop if feel dizzy and just add a few breaths to it each time you repeat the meditation.
  2. Take five quick deeper breaths observing long pauses in-between breaths to help the body and shift the mind.
  3. Tune into the feeling of harmony in your stomach muscles and lower back. As you breathe feel the muscles moving out and in harmoniously, like gentle waves in the water. Stay with the muscles moving in and out harmoniously as you breath. Go at your natural speed of breathing with constant awareness of the stomach muscles moving harmoniously. Do this for 5 minutes while not thinking of anything of anything specific but just focusing on the harmonious movement of the stomach muscles and back.
  4. Bring to mind anything which may have been upsetting you. Continue breathing harmoniously while you ponder this and give thanks for it and. This will take focus but increase harmony in your day and whatever area of life you were focusing upon.
  5. Well done.  IMG 3351

Letting go of attachment

Gautama Buddha, also known as Siddhārtha Gautama, or simply the Buddha, was a sage on whose teachings Buddhism was founded. He is believed to have lived and taught mostly in eastern India sometime between the fourth and sixth centuries BCE.

The word Buddha means "awakened one" or "the enlightened one."  According to Buddha, attachment is the cause of all suffering. Attachment can be towards anything such as how we think things should be, or for sensual satisfaction, for things such as food, money, fear, youthful looks, thought patterns, sadness, bitterness, certain people… It’s also a strategy of the monkey mind to keep one busy and distracted. If you find yourself spending your time longing for things or running away from thing (addictions and aversions) know that this is the monkey innocent mind at work and not your ‘true’ state of being. When one is lost in stories one is lost in ego. Can you imagine who you are if you dropped all your stories? 

The main things we attach to are:

  • Stories: This happened to me, and they they did this and I did that…
  • People: Can be letting go of an ex, old firend, someone who has died/ left the body. Includes over attachment to epople in your life, children, paretns, partners etc. Allow always for there to be white light and space between you, between you and those youmiss, find challenging and love. 
  • Things: What you don’t have you don’t need right now. Let go of what you no longer need, honour the folow of life, releasing that which you no longer need or feel called to give to others. Enter an abudnance mindset where an opporutnity for everything you require is generously presented itlsef to you. 
  • Places: Yes some are very dear to us. But we must let go of everything in order to be here. Holding onto wanting to be somewhere else, prevents you from really landing and embodying this moment fully. And this is very much part of our purpose; to embody this moment fully…and see what arises!

Purpose:

The following exercise to help you let go of attachment, and thus feel happier and more able to experience and enjoy the present moment.

  1. For 10 harmonious breaths, observe the stomach muscles move in towards the spine as you exhale and extend outwards as you inhale.
  2. Tune into the feeling of delight. Inhale and exhale the feeling for 21 breaths, pausing in between each breath to focus upon the feeling of delight.
  3. Tune into the space around you. Exhale light into the space around you and inhale from the space light from the space into your body for 21 breaths; on each exhale expand the light so that in 21 breaths it fills the space and even neighbourhood you are in.
  4. Open your palm and call in your attachment. Ask it to appear in symbolic form on the palm of your hand. Talk to it:
    • Ask it what it’s purpose is
    • Ask it why there is disharmony between you and it
    • Ask what it would like and what its insight/gift is
    • If it feels right, feel unconditional love for it, accepting it fully, connecting you and it as one.
    • When completed, hug it, give thanks for it and watch it dissolve.
  1. For specific issues, you can also try the following exercise:  Meditation
  • For an attachment to food: Imagine your last meal and your next meal. Now tune into and imagine the space in between the two meals, be in this space. Accept this feeling. There may be a bit of panic, but breathe harmoniously in this space and it will harmonise you to the peace in between meals.
  • For an attachment to money or fear of not having money, 
    • Tune into the space between your last money payment and your next. 
    • Imagine all the possible ways money or whatever you need could come to you. 
    • Breathe peacefully and harmoniously in this space as your energy system relaxes and quietens. Be still in the space of accepting where you are while welcoming in what is on the way.
  • For an attachment to exercise or lack of exercise, tune into the space in between your last moment of exercise and your next, breathe calmly in the space in between.
  1. For an attachment to other people or nights out, tune into the last great night out you enjoyed or the last time you enjoyed someone’s company, and the possible next one. Now be in the space between these two events and breathe calmly and harmoniously. Basically accept where you are!
  2. For an attachment to beauty; tune into the last time you felt beautiful and now imagine the next time. Accept being in the space between this and the next time.
  3. You get the idea; adapt this for anything else that comes to mind. Ask yourself, what else am I attached to that would benefit from this exercise? See the last time, the next time and be in the white light inbetween the two. Breathe harmoniously until the energy calms.
  4. Check in with the body, that it is feeling more realxed, at ease and at peace.
  5. Well done!

Thank you for sharing your time here and reading. Remember:

It's okay to let go of old stories and,

Meet this moment a fresh.

Recognise your attachments,

Learn the insight they offer and,

Let them go.

Let's breathe 3 breaths harmoniously right now.

Kapow!

Sending love to your heart, soul and world!

Love you! X

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Monday, 06 November 2017 20:46

Letting Go

Ancients Sites and Adventure in the West of Ireland 

10 days ago I set sail (in my car!) on a trip of discovery. I let go of the ropes(handbrake!) and off we went...  IMG 3323

I have felt called for a while to visit the West of Ireland, some sacred sites and beautiful people.

I had the fortune of having a friend join me for the first few days as well as a friend to stay with in Cork and a couple of parties to attend plus the Cork Jazz festival. It was off to a good start! I had been working in a very focused manner for months and felt the call to shake things up a bit, refresh everything and have time to adventure, meditate and experience self-discovery in the West.

I love the people of the West, who tend to be a different flavour to those of the east of Ireland, whom I also love! Earthy, 

I purposefully didn’t plan too much so I could be open to what arose moment by moment.

By not knowing how each day would unfold, I remained open to all posibilities and had such a wonderful journey. Each day I was guided in where to stay (who to contact as I was fortunate enough to stay with beautiful people at every location). I didn’t know before 6pm most evenings where I would be staying that night, but it worked out so gracefully I am in awe and strengthened my already strong confidence in the on going moment by moment guidance.

A big theme was relationships- on all levels; with myself, friends, the Divine, life, ... ( or maybe this is actualy all the same thing!?) :) . Relating with others can bring me so much joy, and also can teach us a lot about ourselves. Over this trip I was able to observe myself, the feelings that arose. I could see more clearly where I was in resistance and at ease. I had the time and space to really be and feel with whatever arose and allow it to come through. 

IMG 3327 My heart opened further every time someone welcomed me. I got to have and listen to some good conversations with others and with myself!

Got to dance all night into the early morning with the lovely people of West Cork. I caught up with friends for tea and chats and each person I met, I saw them well and blossoming. What a gift.

Got lost in West Cork down back roads and laneways. It was like trying to get out of quick sand getting out of there, the delight I felt when I found lights on a road after hours of driving dark backroads, brought a tear to my eye. A friendly message being invited to stay at a friend’s place gave me immense energy and light when I was tried and feeling alone.

Enjoyed dusk alone on the 1st of November on the capstone of Carrowmore Dolmen and megalithic cemetery.

Wandered the land of Carokweel and sat in the energy of our ancient ancestors and star family.

Allowed myself to sit on the catstone at Uisneach and cry and laugh and ponder and wander.

Wandered through Kinsale and walked the beaches Salthill and Enniscrone. Visited the town of my grandmother, Ballina and felt such a kinship and love for the people there. 

My heart opened and softened. LETTING GO was the main theme of this trip. It started about one week before and now one week after it is still playing out. What a wonderful journey with the understanding of letting go evolving day on day. Letting go continues to deliver greater ease, gentleness and happiness to the present moment. I am grateful. I am space. May we all feel the ease, joy and expansion of letting go grace.

I will continue with this theme and see what further awaits :) IMG 3351

Now I am back to work. I feel ready, able and excited!

I am deeply grateful.

Letting Go

Here are some questions I have asked myself to gain insight. I thought I'd share a few questions here in case you'd also like to give it a go...

When you think about letting go what comes to mind?

Without thinking for more a second for each question I encourage you to name out loud whatever comes to mind. Write it out even for some powerful insights. Name out loud any of which come to mind in the following:

Can you name 3 things you would like to let go of?

1.

2.

3.

How would you like look and feel if you did?

If you are to bring ‘letting go,’ right into this present moment into how you hold yourself and are, how would that change you? Would you do something different to what you are doing? Would you feel different? Can you imagine this now and feel your face and body relax?

Are there any pains you would like to let go of?  IMG 3345

Any resistance in your life you’d welcome letting go of?

How about any goals you’d like to release and let go of?

People!?

Projects?

Places?

Identity?

After much journeying I have rememberd that it is the idea I have of these things in my imagination that I am Letting Go of... and that is what it is all about. Anything I don't like? I let go of my idea of it! Any practise I don't like, I let go of my idea of it...and that opens up the now.

The idea of myself. I let go of that too!

The idea of this moment! I even let go of that as well!

This moment is a lot more full of potential now.

Open, here and willing to be with that which arises. Quite fantastic and fascinating really!

So grateful. Breathe in and breathe out. Here we are. 

Love and peace to your heart and life dear fellow traveller. 

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Poem recapturing some moments of this trip!  

Work late get it all done pay the debts thank the car doctor pay respects and get going when time is right
There is no rush, there is no fight.
Hush when you arrive you’ll see in every ones’ eye no need to rush nor hush

Cork Dork better than ever. Colour and sound, patience was found.West cork quick sand don’t cry nor get high. Fly with the room, plenty shroom for all, allow be, nice to look low, feel the flow, slow slow slow. Gifts come when feeling one.

Galway
Rest the best, gentler than the rest
Gentle touch in all the right places, for my eyes, soul and senses. Surrender is nature and tenderness embraces
No race is the key
Work is successful, stomach in activate the chin.
I love being here.

Carrowmore- off the floor. Ancestors are reawakening smiling happy with what they see- we are expanding light, many already free.

Ballina Rivers flow
Moy toy coy
Kindness ahoy

Carrowkeel I kneel, feel, inspired, raised up higher and released
Star family, Sirius, ancient ancestors, all are us.
Letting go, go slow, I breathe the flow!

Uisneach feel all, go slow, cry it’s ok not to be high.
Love knows the flow.

Sometimes someone turns up sometimes they disappear- lt becomes clear
Life’s plan appears when things are let loose to be
FREE
Feeling the space moment by moment I am arising here seeing more ever more clear. NO Fear.
I've let go
Letting go
I am the space
RUReadyTobeGREATMATE!?

 

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